Hi Sugars, I feel like its being a while I talked to you guys about real life issues, well, today we’re talking about being real and becoming unapologetic.

Leaving in a space of being unapologetic means that you know what your priorities are and the most of them are to make a choice that makes you feel good.  Doing what you want and NOT feeling bad about it. It means caring less about the COOL things and caring more about the stuff that counts.

For me, things start to change when I started becoming ME more and more. For some time I always question my path, and always wondering what was next for me. Sometimes I feel sorry for not being that person people wanted me to be and I struggled to fit in.

I wasn’t bold enough to admit some things were hard and weren’t for me. The moment I started living for myself and becoming unapologetic for my choices and my existence, things started changing.I outgrew some friendships and my relationships with people began to change. I become more confident with my life choices and started living to please myself FIRST.

Here are a few things that have been helping me to become unapologetic

I go after what I most desire. “if you don’t go after what you want you will never have it” Nora Roberts

I stopped hanging out with people who don’t bring out that Good feeling within me.

I set clear boundaries and I wound throw down on them when someone blows past it

I kept on going no matter what. I failed, I fell, but most importantly I stood back up and try again and again

I stopped feeling sorry for myself and I only say sorry when I find its really necessary to do so.

Cheers to becoming unapologetic and blogging about it lol.

What are the things that as helped you grow and became true to yourself? Share with us in the comment section.


Thanks for stopping by.



  1. eniola
    March 28, 2017 / 10:40 am

    Dat is really true
    Making my own decision, and been ready always to face the consequence has also helped me so far…….. followingtheleading

    • shugar
      March 28, 2017 / 6:17 pm

      Thanks for your time dear

  2. Misturahh
    March 28, 2017 / 11:52 am

    Baby girl looking hot! ??

    • shugar
      March 28, 2017 / 6:16 pm

      lol, thanks dear

  3. Hephzibah
    March 28, 2017 / 12:00 pm

    Love the pant! Girl, you nailed it and this is new me loving myself. I like “pleasing oneself first”; that’s right and as we grow and begin to expand like having a family. It starts to change, I find myself pleasing my daughter first (which anyway is part of me). If you please others first before yourself or before your immediate family (spouse, child(ren)), you will have a difficult time making yourself happy and having an interesting life. Thanks for sharing shugar. Love it!

    • shugar
      March 28, 2017 / 6:16 pm

      Thanks for your time dear.

  4. Olamide
    March 28, 2017 / 1:32 pm

    My boo always slaying

    • shugar
      March 28, 2017 / 6:15 pm

      oh, thanks dear

  5. tomiwa
    March 28, 2017 / 3:33 pm

    I think am struggling with such situation. But I hope I get myself before its too late. There are lots of things I really want to do as myself. Hoping this post will help me out. Thanks for the motivation.

    • shugar
      March 28, 2017 / 6:14 pm

      I hope it does help you out. Thanks for your time

  6. Tosin
    March 28, 2017 / 8:33 pm

    Love your style shugar

  7. Socheerykemi
    April 2, 2017 / 10:11 am

    You look gorgeous. Love your pant. I’m still learning to be unapologetic but one thing I always do is when I feel like doing something if it doesn’t hurt me in any way, I don’t dare think too much about it. I just act. Those times I thinking too deeply, I end up not doing them. For sorry, I say it for peace purposes. Thanks for sharing gal.

    • shugar
      April 2, 2017 / 7:48 pm

      Thanks for sharing dear

  8. Cynthiah
    April 3, 2017 / 6:31 am

    Firstly,you look stunning in this outfit,orange never looked this good??Keep it up dear.About your question,I gradually got rid of the negative people around cos I realized they are only good at slowing you down,I became closer to the people that can impact positively,I got to understand that my happiness should come first in anything I do or any decision I take cos you can only give what you have,you can’t make someone happy if you ain’t happy.
    I started taking responsibility for my life and actions,I don’t get weighed down by my mistakes cos I believe it can only get better.

    • shugar
      April 3, 2017 / 8:59 am

      Thanks for sharing

  9. Edmond
    April 14, 2017 / 4:23 pm

    Spot on! I love the color combination.

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